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You are reading Bible Verses to Help you Overcome Jealousy. This post comes from my experience. I struggled with jealousy for years, and still do from time to time, but learning the Bible verses about jealousy helped me overcome a lot of issues. I hope this post blesses you.
After spending hours preparing for the big dinner, I felt pretty . . . til she walked in.
You know the girl.
The one with the perfect hair, great skin, and winning personality. Everyone loves her but her presence makes you squirm in your spirit. Everything about her ties you up in knots.
Maybe for you, it’s scrolling down Facebook seeing someone post about another fancy trip, how great their kids are, or maybe it’s a post about their new home. You simply wish you could do those things or have those things. What’s the harm in that?
I mean, you’re only getting ideas from them, right?
There is a stress that rises in your soul out of wanting your life to look like theirs. It doesn’t feel good and you are unable to accomplish anything productive while you wallow in the mud of jealousy. And no, the pity party you just threw for yourself doesn’t count as productive or good. : )
The Warning Label
As jealousy rears it’s ugly head, our heart can respond with ugly feelings and thoughts.
Leaving the ugly feelings and thoughts unchecked, is like a spiral of death. It kills your attitude, your relationships, and before you know it, your faux happiness that you were enjoying is now gone.
If you let jealousy turn from an initial reaction to a response, you will deal with the consequences; broken relationships, irrational behavior, insecurity, or a deepening sense of selfishness to name a few.
As if the stuff above isn’t bad enough, jealousy can also lead to discontentment, bitterness, anxiety, and depression.
On top of all the ugly feelings you could have, perhaps the most important travesty is being unable to love others the way God wants you to.
You see, the enemy has a way of crushing our spirit so we can’t reach others. Being jealous is a sin that leads to a life of pain and makes us unable to work for God.
No wonder the Bible speaks so harshly against jealousy. There are plenty of Bible verses to help overcome jealousy, though.
The warning sirens are going off. Do you hear them?
Going to Battle
Dispel the lies about joy.
There is a lie going around that if you have ________________ or travel to _______________ or make $_________________, you’ll be happy. But when you place a carrot on a string out of your reach, it will always be out of reach.
The joy of God doesn’t depend on whether you keep up with your neighbors. It depends on your willingness to obey God, including the rule about jealousy.
Think of it like this, the enemy wants us to chase after everything except God. This keeps us busy while getting nothing done at the same time.
After Solomon searched for happiness relentlessly, he said, “Then I considered all that my hands had done and the toil I had expended in doing it, and behold, all was vanity and a striving after wind, and there was nothing to be gained under the sun.” Ecc. 2:11
Later on Solomon says, “Then I saw that all toil and all skill in work come from a man’s envy of his neighbor. This is also vanity and a striving after wind.” Ecc. 4:4
As he was chasing the happiness carrot, he realized that it’s like chasing the wind. You can chase the wind all you want but nothing will come from it because you simply can’t catch it. What are you chasing?
Dispel the lies you tell yourself.
When your heart and mind are jealous, you tend to use blanket statements to cover your feelings. Often, we feel this blanket statement will keep us warm and safe because we try to justify other’s behavior and not our own.
My mind would automatically go to an ugly place (based on jealous feelings) and I would justify my behavior or feelings by saying things like “she always says _____________” or “she always shows off”.
Here’s an example.
I didn’t realize that I was telling myself lies about my husband until I started this process of challenging negative thoughts.
One time, my husband was busy and I was trying to talk to him at the same time. He obviously was too busy to deal with my needs and whatever else he was dealing with at the same time.
I immediately got angry, stormed off, and do you know what I said to myself? “He never listens to me.”
I sat down to think through these feelings and realized that he listens to me a lot. He’s a pretty good listener, but unfortunately, I caught him at a bad time and expected him to drop what he was doing for me.
At this particular time, it was impossible for him to do that, but instead of offering patience and understanding, I became angry. After challenging the lie, I knew I had gotten jealous of whatever was taking his attention.
I realized I messed up and apologized accordingly.
Here’s how this works, when you have a jealous thought, you need to say or write what you are feeling, as soon as you can.
For instance, when the pretty girl walks in and you feel a swell of jealousy, stop yourself. Leave the room if you need to and say or write what you feel. Using your phone is a great way to do this. “She is so pretty, I don’t feel like I can compare to her” or “she’s so talented why would anyone hire me when they can hire her.” Write whatever you are feeling, whether it’s true, rational or neither, simply get it out of your mind and heart.
If you need a journal to jot down your feelings, it would be a good time to get one. Just keep it in your purse, so you are ready for those weak moments.
Now challenge it.
This is the time to tear down the lie. Does the “pretty girl” get the attention you want?
Does your friend’s raise make you feel bad for yourself rather than good for your friend?
Sometimes you can challenge the lie by using the following affirmations or any affirmation that speaks truth to your heart.
She is very pretty but God made me special, too.
Just because she’s beautiful doesn’t mean that I’m not.
I know that God loves me. That makes me happy.
My value or lack of value doesn’t come from who she is or isn’t. My value and security comes from God alone.
Just because she takes nice photos, doesn’t mean that I am incapable of taking good photos.
When someone speaks good things about someone else, it doesn’t mean that you are less than. It just means she was noticed this time.
Just a couple of minutes of intention, tears down the jealousy wall, if you choose to battle your thoughts.
Trust me, though, this is hard at first. You have to retrain your mind for better thoughts. You have to do this every time you feel that ugly feeling and eventually your mind will change, your thoughts will change.
Later on, you’ll notice that she doesn’t bother you anymore, in fact, you enjoyed talking to her.
Learn what the Bible says about jealousy.
Wrath is cruel, and anger is outrageous; but who is able to stand before envy? Proverbs 27:4
Reading what God says about jealousy helps us to remember that we were made for better things. God is clear that jealousy is a quick route to destruction and pain. Breaking free from jealousy is rewarded with the joy you are actually seeking.
After reading all of the Bible verses below, you’ll see that jealousy, comparisons, envy, covet, or any other way you want to say it doesn’t belong in the heart of a Christ follower.
Here’s a Bible study that I recommend . It will help walk you through the process of becoming more confident. I know you will love it.
Realize that our differences are not necessarily good or bad.
But as it is, God arranged the members in the body, each one of them, as he chose. If all were a single member, where would the body be? As it is, there are many parts, yet one body. 1 Corinthians 12:18-20
While our lives may look different from others, we are all very loved and special.
Growing up I wanted to sing beautifully like others in my family, but it wasn’t until I was older that I realized I don’t have to be talented in that way. I can be talented in my own way, I can enjoy things that others don’t, and I can simply be free to be the person God made me to be.
God gave me abilities that I can use for Him. God gave you abilities, too. Finding peace about that is a true blessing.
Stop searching for greatness.
Sometimes, we look for extravagance in our own abilities. We want to be better than others or maybe we are want others to see us as great. Striving to build ourselves up only leads to disappointments and discontentment.
In contrast, God wants us to lift Him up, to show Him off. When we understand that the greatness in us is there because of Him, we find true joy.
When we are willing to make Him great, He can use our dirty vessels for some cools things.
We are fearfully and wonderfully made by a wonderful God. We need to remind ourselves of that love and value we each possess. Instead of searching for a way to be labeled as great, let’s look for ways to make Him great.
Go help others.
If we live defeated by jealousy, we can’t help others.
In order to heal from jealousy, we need to move the attention away from ourselves and focus on others.
When we focus on ourselves, we lose the big picture, which is to love each other like ourselves and to love God with everything we have and are.
Find a project you can do to help someone else. Talk with someone who could really use a listening ear, like a recent widow or someone who is lonely. Make a batch of cookies for someone.
I also recommend that you practice being thankful, read scripture, and meditate on the wonderful things of God daily. This will help guard your heart from the dangers of jealousy as you remove the desire to lift yourself up.
Take some time to reflect on your jealousy.
Do you compare yourself to others?
Do you want what other’s have?
Who pushes your buttons? You probably know already, don’t you. If not, scroll down Facebook and see if you feel that ugly feeling. 😉
If you are not sure about your triggers, simply pray that God will open your heart to these issues. Pray that God will illuminate issues of your heart so you can heal. Then pay attention and respond accordingly.
God has new mercy every day.
He even has peace for your jealous heart.
God will help you conquer this battle but it’s something you have to fight.
What you’ll find is that God will bless you and your effort to overcome or heal from jealousy.
Bible Verses to Help Overcome Jealousy
I will praise thee; for I am fearfully and wonderfully made: marvelous are thy works; Psalms 139:14I will praise thee; for I am fearfully and wonderfully made: marvelous are thy works; Psalms 139:14
A sound heart is the life of the flesh: but envy the rottenness of the bones. Proverbs 14:30
Wrath is cruel, and anger is outrageous; but who is able to stand before envy? Proverbs 27:4
Fret not thyself because of evildoers, neither be thou envious against the workers of iniquity. For they shall soon be cut down like the grass, and wither as the green herb. Trust in the LORD, and do good; so shalt thou dwell in the land, and verily thou shalt be fed. Delight thyself also in the LORD; and he shall give thee the desires of thine heart. Commit thy way unto the LORD; trust also in him; and he shall bring it to pass. Psalm 37:1-3
Set me as a seal upon thine heart, as a seal upon thine arm: for love is strong as death; jealousy is cruel as the grave: the coals thereof are coals of fire, which hath a most vehement flame. Many waters cannot quench love, neither can the floods drown it: if a man would give all the substance of his house for love, it would utterly be contemned. Song of Songs 8:6-7
For jealousy is the rage of a man: therefore he will not spare in the day of vengeance. Proverbs 6:34
So will I make my fury toward thee to rest, and my jealousy shall depart from thee, and I will be quiet, and will be no more angry. Ezekiel 16:42
For wrath killeth the foolish man, and envy slayeth the silly one. Job 5:2
Hell and destruction are never full; so the eyes of man are never satisfied. Proverbs 27:20
Let not thine heart envy sinners: but be thou in the fear of the LORD all the day long.For surely there is an end; and thine expectation shall not be cut off. Proverbs 23:17-18
Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. 1 Corinthians 13:4
And I saw that all toil and all achievement spring from one person’s envy of another. This too is meaningless, a chasing after the wind. Ecclesiastes 4:4
Brothers and sisters, do not slander one another. Anyone who speaks against a brother or sister or judges them speaks against the law and judges it. When you judge the law, you are not keeping it, but sitting in judgment on it. James 4:11
Do not be overcome by evil, but overcome evil with good. Romans 12:21
You desire but do not have, so you kill. You covet but you cannot get what you want, so you quarrel and fight. You do not have because you do not ask God. When you ask, you do not receive, because you ask with wrong motives, that you may spend what you get on your pleasures. James 4:2-3
But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, forbearance, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control. Against such things there is no law. Galatians 5:22-23
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