When I began to search for depth in my prayer life, I wanted to pray prayers that were specific, relevant, and meaningful.
When I pray for my kids, I want to pray for their needs. Even at a young age they have big needs. They have big emotions and big frustrations that they don’t yet know how to convey. This is challenging for parents and frustrating for kids.
I quickly learned on this parenting adventure that I can’t do this alone. I need God to help me and I want God to work in my child’s life.
Here are three prayers that I prayed over my children. When the time was right I encouraged my kids to pray a simple prayer to help. This teaches them to go to God early in the issue and teaches them that it’s ok to pray about how we feel.
1) To learn how to recognize emotions and how to deal with them.
Kids need to learn early on that it’s ok to be mad, but it’s not ok to be mean. They need mom to help teach them that what the feel is ok but it’s not ok to respond poorly.
Kids are so full of emotions. In fact, the part of the brain that controls emotion is not fully developed until they are much older. Which means they are going to lose it and lose it big often. But it also means that we can teach them to watch for emotions. We can remind them of how and what they are feeling. There are so many lessons around emotions that parents can teach but I can’t cover them all here. Just know that praying over your child as they learn their emotions will be such a blessing. God can teach in ways that we can not.
But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, self-control; against such things there is no law. Galatians 5:22-23
Prayer for Mom – God help me to recognize my child’s emotional struggles and guide them through the storms of their feelings. God help me to not become emotional along with my child but to stay solid even during times of misbehavior. I know my child may do something bad but they are your children and that makes them special. Please remind me during the middle of the storm that peace in the home often begins with the Mom and that if I give peace to my kids it is a blessing to to us all. Help me to replenish my peace from God, so I can give it freely in my home.
Prayer for toddler – God calm me. God keep me. God show me how to be like you. Even though I’m ________, I know it’s not ok to mean. God help me to be brave enough to be good even when I don’t feel like it.
2) To learn that owning toys is a blessing, and blessings can be shared.
Kids are notorious for being selfish. They don’t want to share, they don’t play well together. They just don’t. And part of that is ok. Let me explain. Kids should be able to have things that are important to them. They should also be able to play alone. Some kids need more alone time than others and all kids should have some quiet time away from others throughout their day. Thirty minutes is often a nice time for them to play in their rooms with their own toys by themselves.
On the flip side, kids should not take things away from others. It doesn’t matter what the reason is, it is unacceptable to take but it’s always nice to ask. Just because a child asks doesn’t mean that they will get what they ask for. It’s ok to say no, if you are enjoying a toy. It’s also ok to wait if you want to play too.
We work hard on this at an early age. This is a hard lesson to learn but knowing how to ask for a toy and accepting the answer will help kids develop good social skills.
The important thing about sharing is that Mom needs to help navigate the waters of selfishness to show our children that thinking of others is a good thing. When God has blessed you with a neat toy, it’s ok to share that blessing.
So in everything, do to others what you would have them do to you, for this sums up the Law and the Prophets. Matthew 7:12
Prayer for Mom – God help me to see through my childs eyes. God help me to realize their need to own something. Help me also to be a voice of reason between my kids and their belongings. Help me to guide my children as they navigate sharing and understanding that blessings can be given to others. Help me to make ground rules and to stick to them no matter what.
Prayers for toddlers – God thank you for blessing me with _______. God help me to play with my friends. Help me to be a happy waiter as I wait to share and not to take when I want.
3) To help guide them through character development.
As children grow we expect their personalities and characters to grow, too. The difference between the two is personalities don’t usually need to be cultivated but characters do. Kids are naturally quiet, active, or any other quality you can think up. However, if kids are left to their own devices they will cater to the evil that is naturally in them. All children are born sinners, right? Children must be taught how to grow in grace and how to give grace. This is the ultimate gift we can give our children – how to be like Jesus. When you are praying over their character, pray for the specific issue you are facing. The issue of the day will change frequently and that is to be expected.
Prayer for Mom- God, help me to grow in grace as I teach my children to do the same. Help me to grow deep so I will be steady as a deep stream. I know that I will need that steadiness as I teach my children what is right and what is wrong. Help me also to learn what Godly characters are so I can teach well. As my child struggles with being __________, help mold their hearts toward selflessness and love. God thank you for changing my heart as well through these years.
Prayers for toddlers- God help me to be like you. Help me to listen and do the first time, so I can honor mom and dad and obey them. Help me to be _________.
Children, obey your parents in the Lord, for this is right. “Honor your father and mother” (this is the first commandment with a promise), “that it may go well with you and that you may live long in the land.” Fathers, do not provoke your children to anger, but bring them up in the discipline and instruction of the Lord. Ephesians 6:1-4
How do you pray for your child’s behavior? Or do you? Maybe you should try it out.